One of the things I struggled with for years up until this past year is finding balance with my career, family and personal life. Being a full-time working Mom adds stress and guilt to my plate for not giving everyone equal time. It's just a normal thing us women do to ourselves especially us Moms. But let's face it it's 2019 and women of all ages want to have it all from a booming career to a fun personal life with happy healthy children. That is exactly what I strive to do on a daily basis now. And this past year has been the best year of my life since I made this decision.
I used to be the person that never took time for myself. Girlfriends would ask me to go away and I never went. I never felt comfortable going anywhere and leaving my children at home. I always would get up super early and not stop until I was so exhausted I had too. I was trying to work a full-time job, take care of a home inside and outside and raise my children with very little help. It wasn't until I got divorced and was fully on my own that I realized that is not the life I wanted to live. You need to make time for the things you want to make time for because there is always time and I forced myself to slow down. It's ok if you don't wash your floors every other day or mow your lawn after you work a 10 hour day. Because guess what it will be there the next day or the day after that. I used to want the perfect house, perfect yard when I realized those things just don't matter to me anymore. Being summer time when I have days off from work if I have the option to lounge by a pool or catch up on laundry I choose the pool every time. If friends invite me out and my children are not home I go out. I find time to run almost every day and try to stay fit but I if I have the chance to have some beers and cocktails I go for it. I try not to obsess about staying thin so much or spending money on fun because time is so valuable and I am worth it. We certainly all have responsibilities and need to get things done like paying bills and working our hours but there is so much more to life than that.
Once you start seeing past these meaningless life tasks and how little important they are in the grand scheme of things is when you can really start enjoying life. You will be amazed how much more productive you are at work or have more patience with your children when you give yourself equal time. I have laughed and smiled more this year than I have in a combined 15 years of time and I enjoy waking up and working my job. So step out of your comfort zone, put the bleach away and get to the nearest beach. Time's a-wastin!
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